tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21117512.post116439252821326304..comments2023-10-11T03:49:29.975-04:00Comments on Auntie Amanda Knits: Thus begins the holiday angst...Amandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13167523681930989818noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21117512.post-1164606562726770622006-11-27T00:49:00.000-05:002006-11-27T00:49:00.000-05:00You're so awesome at making beautiful things, why ...You're so awesome at making beautiful things, why don't you just MAKE everyone a LITTLE something, and call it a day? <BR/><BR/>Martinis and yarn. Who could ask for anything more? <BR/><BR/>...um, besides a family who loves you?<BR/><BR/>Set the guilt aside. It will only age you. Guilt and paranoia are scary emotions, yet the collective "we" always let them control "us". <BR/><BR/>Even though I don't come from a divorced family, I feel your pain. I fear divorce because I see what it has done to my Mister's entire way of thinking about family. This is why I'm not married and don't have kids, even though I've been with the man I love for over 13 years. See? It's the paranoia thing creeping back in. <BR/><BR/>I'm rambling (sorry). Just do what you think is right. No one can take that away or judge you for it. <BR/><BR/>...sounds like you're already doing that...TheStephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12730950093216560973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21117512.post-1164497999221132802006-11-25T18:39:00.000-05:002006-11-25T18:39:00.000-05:00I share your pain. http://purlsb4swine.blogspot.co...I share your pain. <BR/><BR/>http://purlsb4swine.blogspot.com/2004/12/most-wonderful-time-of-year-begins.html<BR/><BR/>I will admit that it has gotten a little better over the years. It really has helped with the boy of divorce being all grown now too. So there has been less impact from guilt related stress. <BR/><BR/>Being honest with myself and my limitations and full recognition of my true responsibilities to family at this time also helps me emotionally, even though the workload remains the same. Admitting that it's a wall of fire I must run through kind of takes out the sting. I also have recognized that I have a choice in how I respond to the crap, and that has helped too, somehow.<BR/><BR/>For what it's worth.Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01105728475058601396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21117512.post-1164413606315238782006-11-24T19:13:00.000-05:002006-11-24T19:13:00.000-05:00Well, first off, I think you are handling the holi...Well, first off, I think you are handling the holiday situation with Girl Wonder in the best way. She will always love and appreciate you for that. As for your dad, he may not know how to reach out. That can be hard. If you reach out to him it may change his Christmas this year for the better. Something to think about, even though it is hard.<BR/><BR/>I know the holidays are a hard time for so many people. The expectations are high and people have this fantasy about how the holidays should be. Reality can be much different. Just make sure to take some time for yourself - even if that does mean being selfish. And pour an extra martini for me because I will spending the holidays with people who don't believe in that! Can make for a pretty "dry" Christmas in more ways than one!Larahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08483505115508389454noreply@blogger.com